Am I eternally hopeful or in denial....?

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, S.T.!!

Thank you for your input!!

I do not believe this is a mistake for everyone. It just depends HOW you do it and at what point in the sitch you do it....

I agree that this can be a good thing or a bad thing. I did tell my H when I talked to him about my love for him being unconditional recently, that if he ever felt a need for a "conjugal visit", and so long as he wasn't "active" with anyone else and thus exposing me to something, that he should feel free to let me know, because I missed it too!!! I told him that even that part of my love was unconditional and that he should know that I would not take it to mean that he was ready for reconciliation or anything. I told him that to me, it would simply be sharing my love with him in a physical way, the same that it has always been. H just said that he would keep it in mind and I have not mentioned it since and I will not.

I believe it is because they are scared to get back involved, and they are confused, or they don't want to lead us on.

Yes, definitely this is the case with my H!!!

Your s17 got to see a side of H that he may not have seen before, and you both got to share an experience together that may have helped create a little bonding moment. Not that it was a good experience, but he is safe, so that's what matters.

I do think that ultimately it was a good growth experience, especially in my son's relationship with his Dad, and I am grateful for that.

Thanks again, {{{{{{S.T.}}}}}}