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Just curious, when you told to her just ask, where you in a nice mood or more of an angry or annoyed mood?? Did she again play off your action???


Probobly a little exasperated. I have tried to get her to just express herself directly for the last 7 years. She has gotten better, but not much.

No, her mood was there before I said that.

Anyway, we had a good lunch the other day. I pinpointed the area of her dissapointed intimacy issues and specifically emphathised with her, proposing to put her sexual and intimacy needs above mine if we chose to work this out.

This was appreciated and led into further discussion regarding communication issues and whether I ever really loved her.

I think I was able to address both concerns in a way that comforted her and we both left, I think, with a faint glimmer of possiblity.....

Hopefully the flood of depressive thoughts she baths in regularly won't wash that possibility away....

Last edited by native; 01/19/09 04:59 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09