For my situation, I think the best way we can rebuild trust is to set the boundaries of what is not acceptable regarding members of the opposite sex. And then for me to take him at his word that he will not violate my trust again.
This approach, while understandable, is unworkable because it fails to include the premise that "all cheaters lie." You have FWAWs on this very thread telling you that they did.
It's a fact.
This doesn't make them untrustworthy people; just untrustworthy at this point in time. The trust has to be re-earned, and full transparency is the way to earn it.
