Rebuilding trust - what are reasonable requests?

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newgal - I like your approach. It's basically what I was getting at in my posts.

However, saying and doing are two different things. I have been lied to so much between Sep06 and May 08 that it's really hard to give trust first and then see him back it up. I think it's something I'll ahve to do though, cos if I don't the accusations and shame that he will feel will be detrimental to the relationship.