for the court, i agree with sara. for the person thinking about having an affair, i am more conservative. I personally would consider myself having an affair if I let my interest grow on someone while I still have an hope or an interest to be with my husband. For me only, if I have not given up hope on H, I would not entertain any advances or try to date. Once I have given up hope on H, however, then I would consider myself single and would not considert calling someone an affair (does not mean I would date anyone, but I would not feel guilty if I do). The sexual part is bound by the court and the cutlure we live in, but it is my own conscience that I go by. does that make sense?
