Itsy, Actually there are two friends of mine from this board that are still at it. I was the fortunate one to have the h divore me. They are still in limbo and dealing w/the nonsense.
It's painful just knowing that they have an op in their lives, i.e., whether they are living w/them or not.
My xh is slowly waking up. We email periodically. He still wants to be friends. His emails are all about him. He's got a number of health issues that appeared during his crisis and if he doesn't take care of himself, he'll be a heart attack in the making. Of course, he never mentions the ow that he married, but that's his lot in life and I'm glad he is her problem. He asks about my family and me, but I very seldom tell him anything about myself. He made a huge step in wishing me a "happy birthday" in August. It's a first in 9 years. But, to me, it's too little too late for me. I moved on and am happy w/my life the way it is.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
