How'd that "communication" go? I'm betting not so well. Trying to "lead" sounds good...
But you implicitly brought up her stupidity about the texts, and she'll probably see it as back handed compliments, as she'll likely also believe you were insincerely expressing happiness at her "contentment". Oh well. With the exception of parenting, when it's mandatory, why not keep a low profile?
Shoot, I don't know what to advise in your sitch. It's so odd, legally, and otherwise. Good luck, we're all rooting for you. (( j ))
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