Hey K.. I'm sorry the day wasnt much of a success! Interesting, you were angry about him leaving and the year S and the Ow.. and now he makes you angry because he wants to 'brush it all under the carpet'...
..would it help to remember what we said about that? That maybe he is just not capable of confronting and resolving emotional issues or saying sorry? Looking at his upbringing and his mothers silent treatments? I guess he doesnt have the 'tools' as FG would say. And you cant teach him, as someone once said to me.. you're his girlfriend, not his therapist! But, if you see him as hindered, disadvantaged, out of practice.. would that help you not be so angry? As in, its not personal, or intentional, just supremely avoidant! Alot of the WAS on these boards are, thats how come we are all here, I am sure. I blame the mothers, lol. What happened to the idea of you both going back to IC? You are, but.. is he?? Can you ask him to?
As for the other happy couples making plans, yes, that is annoying, I see others sailing along, blissful in their ignorance or dysfunctional R's and I feel cheated.. why did I have to go through this devastating loss and they get to carry on as normal?? BUT.. I've learnt so much and feel so much more 'me' that maybe I wouldnt swap now. Still... I wish I had got to learn the lessons AND kept my ex. You got a chance at having both, but like Lanzo says.. piecing is murder! Its an uphill battle it seems.
