Hey lan - just a thought - if you ever fancy hooking up - given that you're not too far away from me i think - then i'd be more than game - with D if you like - your D and H are same ages...
You can find me on Fb as one of Kalni's friends and part of the DB group - i'm the bloke in the blue jacket with some hills (lakeland mountains) in the background...
it sounds like you have some serious thinking going on and i feel for you at the moment...lan - you've done so much to get to this spot...and I'm afraid i can't offer anything apart from to say KBO!
Well done for signing up for the run again! Get training soon! May will be here before we know it!
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
Hey lan - just a thought - if you ever fancy hooking up - given that you're not too far away from me i think - then i'd be more than game
LOL !!! I actually put this on my list of things for 2009 but I wasn't too sure if I wanted to step outside the safety of the cyberworld. I seriously would like to meet for a chat probably without the kids.
I've just started back in the gym Tuesday was my first session so yes roll on May and the 10k run.
Oh on another front, for those that are interested, I get confirmed in church this coming Sunday. This will be a big moment for me, I'll tell all details after it happens.
Originally Posted By: Kalni Just making sure you know I am reading... K
Same here Lan (and K reading you as well). Need to think some more on both your sitches.
Don't worry fb2
I'm thinking too
Lan
PS: just had a thought the common thing with Kalni's sithch at the moment is the partner wants to return to the M as if nothing has happened, and they still exhibit their old behaviours, only now we can see it clearly.
My PC is back up and running, I managed to get rid of that pesky virus, the computer runs a lightening speed now.
Today I was confirmed in church, I'm not an overly religious person but I guess the events of the last 3 years has made me think about a lot of things and has led me down the path of reaffirming my faith in God, so I am now a fully paid up member of the church of England, and very happy about that.
W is still up and down, I can never predict her moods the good thing is she's just the same with everyone else so that's some small comfort for me. As I mentioned before I've been giving her plenty of space around the house and at bed times. Friday morning I got up early, actually I didn't sleep well so I didn't spend much time in bed. When W spoke to me later in the day she said she was "looking for me" at 5am and wanted to know where I was. I told her if I wake early I'm not going to disturb her, I'll just shower and go downstairs, I'm not going to launch any 5am "ambushes". Saturday I slept better, but W woke me at 5am for a bit of nudge, nudge, first of the year and first for 2 months, I thinkher motor must have still been ing running from the previous morning. I realise now take it while its there and don't make a big fuss over it, so no fuss made here.
On the GAL front, I'm in contact with some old friends on a couple of social network site and making some plans to meet up, I'm also toying with the idea of meeting up with GFI for a chat, we'll see how that goes. My little Sat Nav project is moving on, but it's gonna cos a little more than I wanted to cos I've got to buy a special in car charger for it.
I've probably got a couple of other things to report but they can wait for later.
Sounds like your backing off for Jan is working. Remember, highly unlikely to ever get an apology and I imagine your W was looking for you the day before for the 5am ambush.
W and I took the afternoon off yesterday to watch the Obama inauguration live, I didn't want to be sat at my desk in work or stuck in traffic for such an historic event. Immediately after his swearing in W and I drank a toast, I toasted to a new tomorrow (meaning the for world), W toasted to new beginnings (I think she was meaning us but I didn't check). I take a line fron Arthur that I won't be getting any apologies anytime soon, but I guess she is moving forward in her own way.
The afternoon off was good for us both cos at least we were focussing on a common interest instead of areas the R that are not progressing well. So we move forward slowly with no pressure from me.
Hi Sweetie, just wanted to pop in to tell you that I am still around and anytime you need me, you know where to find me. Sorry your W is giving you the old routine again, but you remember what works and what doesn't work and as our old friend "Forrest" would say, "Do Work".
You are looked up to and admired for your endurance and how hard you have worked in the R. I have always been very proud of you. BTW, I was very glad to hear about the movement in church and hope that will be the beginning of good things to come.
Take care of yourself. I am proud of you not kissing up but instead you are standing tall and strong. As for her attitude she needs to "get glad in the same rags she got mad in" (as the old saying goes), and get over it already...move on with life. It is just stupid at what some women want to use as an excuse to be a b*tch. She may not be telling you the complete truth about what is bugging her....but who knows? Her "reason" sounded very flimsy. I have little patient for girls like that. Guess I am a tough ole "Mama"....huh? (lol)
Keep on doing good.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
