I would stick to being dark. You don't need to reply and if you want to then just validate. My H came up with: I don't know what was wrong with our marriage but I've fallen in love with someone else and so fallen out of love with you....didn't want to even try counselling or trial separation. It doesn't make sense to us but it does to them. If you try and reason with her then she will think you are trying to control her.
She needs to go and date and do what she wants and see that the grass is not greener on the other side...this only works if you have something better waiting at home. So you have a lot of work to do so stop thinking of what she is doing, you mentioned in another post that for years you have being doing things for her.. youu need to change it and do things for you and re-discover what you enjoyed doing. Show her an attractive man to come back to.
What are you doing for yourself? What are your 180's, GAL and what issues do you think led to her leaving? Which of these can you change?
