Ali,
I don't think I would say anything to the xh. I think I would continue on and leave the door ajar if you are hoping to have some type of relationship w/him down the road, i.e., friends. Now, if you want to do something for yourself in that respect, then okay, but I would not say anything to him about it.

The property and photos....well, he doesn't want to think about them right now. They are reminders of his past and he doesn't want to be reminded of that at the moment. Deep down, he knows that the stuff is right where he left it and may use that as reconnection tools down the road. I have a friend who has been at it as long as I have and she has her h's tools, boat, equipment, etc. at her house. He talks about coming to pick them up, but never does. It's part of the journey for them to leave things behind along the way. I would put the photos away and until such time that he requests copies.

He may respond back to you this week, but don't be surprised by anything he says. Keep your expectations at zero at all times. We look at the property and photos as part of our memories and lives in the rational world. Your h isn't completely rational right now. Be thankful that he's not asking you for a lot of things.

I'm glad to see that you are keeping busy. Time will go by much faster when you are busy and enjoying yourself.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.