that's true--I see that I tend to think of it all as one thing!

I'm kinda thinking, having burned through 7 different marriage counselors is not a promising sign, tho.

M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012