sorry to be superficial, but why don't you color your hair? I mean, getting it done professionally, not doing it by yourself since it usually shows if you don't know what you are doing. It'll make you look years younger. Seriously. I have some gray at the roots and so I have it done every 6 weeks. When my s22 noticed some gray roots in spots coming in (I was a little overdue) he was amazed. He said, "God MOM, you look so old with gray hair. Go look young!!" He was only half kidding.
And at my HS reunion, my gf's and I were amazed at how many MEN didn't color their hair. ALL the women did, with maybe one or two exceptions and we, the women in the class, looked a lot better and younger and couldn't believe the guys wouldn't color their hair. Being bald is a drag that the guy cannot help. Gotta just suck it up and be manly about it and many guys pull it off really well. But all white hair? Okay, I apologize if this sounds really superficial, but I don't get that. So what if it's hereditary? No one tries to get white hair.
Getting in shape and coloring your hair will do amazing things for you and boy, talk about an obvious 180 that your w will literally SEE....but please, at least once, get it done professionally. It'll look natural and great. If you fear change too much, then do it more gradually but that costs more. (Very Bill Clinton by the way. He'd do it "gradually" when he was in office the first term).
Good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
