"Going Dark" - 101

[pauld2100]

I have an important question about going dark, I did do this also for a while after I found out she was dating. as I have read here I was already in that dark mode before I left and it may have done more damage but I did try small things to "save our R" but that also backfired. so I went dark again and she did finally call here and there but also has help her grow away. It seems anything I try or do or say is countered with the opposite of what ever it is, I did see some small positive but she quikly stoppmed it out. So since I was dark before and she won't repspond to any ideas from me to some thing diffrent then what WOW what a challenge plus an OM on top of that!?!?!?