I would post this in Newcomers too and a brief outline of your sitch, you will get more responses. Also tomorrow evening more people will be around.
Divorce is a big decision and not one to be made under pressure or in anger or haste. If you still want time to think about whether d is the right option for you at the moment I would just take the time.
If your h asks I would simply tell him the truth, that the papers seem to have got lost in the system somewhere. Leave it at that and see what he says, he may be proactive or not. Sometimes there is no harm in not taking the lead and going with the flow to find out someones true intentions and wishes. You don't always have to take the lead unless you want things done quickly. There is no harm in taking time to think, there is no time limit here. If your h is that impatient (which I doubt he is) he can always file himself. It sounds as if he is asking because his solicitor is pushing. Do what is right for you, there is no pressure here. Or, if you want to carry on with the d re-file.
