How long to D papers just sit?

If H files an extension, will I hear of it?

How many consecutive extensions can be filed?

If H filed the complaint, and I simply responded, is there an amount of time after which, I can have the case dropped? Or is H the only one to drop it?

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home