Karen: I have felt for a long time, that a lot of our WAS, mine included, are messed up, and many of us would be better off without them. They are the ones that are throwing away their family and unconditional love and all that. But maybe this gives us a chance to have that with someone else I guess.
What and get away from the lying, the cheating and find someone committed to a relationship are we crazy do we dare to dream of such a life
I'm dreaming of such a life already Karen, I hope there is someone out thre for us both, I know there are some great women out there because of you and kat, lwb, Sara, wdid, and all the other ladies here in this crazy little cyber-world. I'm scared but thats good. That will keep me from running to fast into someting, but I at least know there are good women out there waiting. I just have to find them.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
I hope there is someone out thre for us both, I know there are some great women out there because of you and kat, lwb, Sara, wdid, and all the other ladies here in this crazy little cyber-world.
The men on this board, and the rock solid men in my life (my step dad, my brother, my friends' husbands) were the things that restored my faith in men, *real* men.
Sorry for teasing you H. I took Nyquil last night for my cold and lasted about 10 minutes I think. Jeff, we will find better people in the future--hard to find worse don't you think???? LWB, yeah this place and church gives me hope, although the single guys in my church are in their 20s and 60s! Karen
Ha, ha!!! I'm trying not to go there. I'm planning on doing some job apps (online) in other areas of the country today as I've mentioned before. I'm having some FEAR!!! First of all, moving with just me and the kids kind of scary; you know I've always had my dad and then H helping me out kind of doing everything before. So that's scary. And then I'm thinking H will throw a big fit when he finds out we're moving--in some ways I think eventually he'd be happy about that, he's been spending 3 or 4 hours with the kids each weekend lately, so pretty clear his priorities aren't with the kids and he could blame me his lack of parenting on me for moving. But anyway, I think it's something I have to do, just freaking out a little about it... Karen
S16 thinks it would be great if you move here. He keeps teasing me that he would have to stop us from giggling all of the time. Does he think we are 12?? lol
It would be a blast though.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
No, but sometimes I act like I'm 12!!! Sometimes I have to think moving wouldn't be sooo bad. I'm still applying around in this area, so it's not like I'm just trying to move, b/c I do have a bunch of friends & great church here and D9 is happy here too. But....
Try to make this a short story but might wind up H4h length! H and I had a joint checking account (very bad idea I've now realized) but we stopped using it in December and opened our own sep. new checking accounts mid-December. (I'm requesting the statements to see what he did for sure b/c he had them start sending them to him 5 or 6 months ago) H took out all the money in the account I'm fairly sure in mid-december or maybe even earlier, as 2 checks have bounced written in November. I guess he felt like if they hadn't cleared by mid-December he didn't have to pay them or something wacky like that & he didn't want me to be able to have access to any funds maybe in there also although of course I wouldn't have done that.
One I wrote on November 12 for TKD just bounced and he says he will pay half, so wants me to pay half. He was supposed to pay for the bills prior to the custody/trial hearing which was a month after that check was written, and the judges order actually began January 1st. But I don't want to hose the TKD people (actually friends of mine), cause problems for us taking TKD, and create a big fuss with H over $50 so am thinking I will pay half of that even though legally I shouldn't have to. I don't want to be a doormat, but that's my reasoning. What do you think? I'm thinking I am so glad I'm not going to be married to such a fucktard (is that the right word?) for the rest of my life, so actually happy about that! Karen
Yea, that is the word. I couldn't agree more that he is one of those. If you want to keep the peace, you could do what he suggested. If you want the "right" thing to do, go through the court and make him pay the whole darn thing.
Sorry to say but I will be happy when you aren't with him either, though I am sure he will try to throw his 2cents around. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
What and get away from the lying, the cheating and find someone committed to a relationship are we crazy 
do we dare to dream of such a life
Karen
I'm planning on doing some job apps (online) in other areas of the country today as I've mentioned before. I'm having some FEAR!!! First of all, moving with just me and the kids kind of scary; you know I've always had my dad and then H helping me out kind of doing everything before. So that's scary. And then I'm thinking H will throw a big fit when he finds out we're moving--in some ways I think eventually he'd be happy about that, he's been spending 3 or 4 hours with the kids each weekend lately, so pretty clear his priorities aren't with the kids and he could blame me his lack of parenting on me for moving. But anyway, I think it's something I have to do, just freaking out a little about it... Karen