Since HE is the one asking about the papers, that implies that he wants to move forward. OR, maybe he doesn't and wants to put a stop to them. IF he was NOT asking, then maybe I wouldn't bring it up. Either way, why not tell him the truth? The last thing you want is for it to look like you are standing in the way of a D that he wants. Then you will just look controlling, sneaky, whatever. (OW could have a hayday with it "Your W is such a liar. She lets you think she's moving forward with the D and then "loses" the paperwork and doesn't tell you?!? How convenient. blah blah blah" Nobody appreciates being mislead into believing something that isn't true. Right now, he believes the paperwork is en route and progressing normally.
What if you framed the statement like this "H, I did send the paperwork over but it seems that it's been lost. We've been getting along so great lately Do we *really* want to restart the process?" or "I wonder if it didn't happen for a "reason". I am feeling a lot of positive changes...."and wait for his response.(Or whatever fits for you.)
I don't know; maybe I am all wet. I just am not seeing the upside for keeping it a secret.
Last edited by Trixi; 01/18/0903:50 PM.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
