Spouse's behavior didn't change because of our divorce. He's always been this way. I just never saw it. I was never on the receiving end.
I look at some of the things he does. Where I can still get mad, I ask myself.. "How can I get mad at someone who is being who he is? Do I get mad at a dog for being a dog?" Spouse feels like he is being fair and generous. I see him as nickle and diming me and the kids.
We're all who we are.. it's just very different when you're looking from the outside in rather than the inside out.
