EnergyAZ, Pretty much newby here. I am the WAW who had two As. I understand your hesitancy. I am REALLY glad you understand that she was acting out, as I was too. It in no way justifies our actions, but does help gain perspective on where we were coming from. Ugh.
I don't think your "demands" are too much, but the way you worded them here are harsher than I would prefer (for me personally.) You can get what you want without being an turkey about it. You still have to be respectful of her as a person or it just sends her back to WAW thinking. "Oh, he's just being controlling again." Just be careful, there I think.
I agree with whoever said there needs to be some sort of time limit on it, initially. Do it for the next 6 months and then reevaluate fairly. It's not fair for you to get in a rut and then use "well, we have to keep doing this cause it makes me feel better" so that you can keep controlling her indefinitely. I don't think you would, but I can see how it would be easy for my H to get in that mindset and not be willing to leave it, pushing me back into WAW mindset, eventually, because he would still be being controlling and then also unwilling to change (not listening to my needs).
Lastly, I agree with Purple, that she needs to come to you and tell you what phone calls she has received, who she saw that day, and what her schedule is, etc. If you have to ask questions, it makes her feel like the "truant teen" but when she gives up the info, it is her choosing to do the right thing. Of course ask questions as you see necessary, I think, but let her tell you all of it first and then ask the questions you need answered.
GOOD LUCK! I am glad she has changed her mind. I am glad you were willing to try again. It gives me hope, although I think my road is longer.
Mel
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
You still have to be respectful of her as a person or it just sends her back to WAW thinking. "Oh, he's just being controlling again." Just be careful, there I think. 