Am I eternally hopeful or in denial....?

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I propositioned my H several months after we were S. He quit talking to me for almost a month, only w/ intermittent phone calls. Prior to that, we had been speaking almost every day. Please do not make the same mistake.

lola and SC,

I do not believe this is a mistake for everyone. It just depends HOW you do it and at what point in the sitch you do it. I did the same, and it was a good thing for me.

now when you propositioned Lola and he rejected (which my H had done too) did you let him see any hurt or disappointment? If you did, THAT is where things would have gone wrong most likely. If not, well, it still may not have been a bad thing as usually when they find themselves getting closer to you, they tend to back off, and I believe it is because they are scared to get back involved, and they are confused, or they don't want to lead us on.

SC, I am very glad to hear your son is back, and it looks like it was ultimately a good thing... God takes bad things and uses them for good for those who love him. Romans 8:28.

Your s17 got to see a side of H that he may not have seen before, and you both got to share an experience together that may have helped create a little bonding moment. not that it was a good experience, but he is safe, so that's what matters.