hmmm.........h had that same look on his face--kind of subdued and was pretty quiet.
instead of eating dinner, he told me to "save it" for him. and he told me that he wrote to his father today and sent the letter. i did not ask what he wrote instead he told me that someone had to make the first move since it has been over three years. he said he wrote that he was still unemployed and that i was selling books, etc. he said he did not ask for money.
very interesting...........
he is coming over tomorrow and sunday also.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Not sure how my FIL will react but the fact that H is living with ow does not sit well with him. As a matter of fact, my h is still NOT welcome to their home while he is in an adulterous relationship.
My FIL can be pretty stubborn but who knows what will come out of it. Like I said, it was only a letter, nothing asked for, just a general letter from what H told me.
I plan on having a nice day today. H will be here earlier and he will also be here tomorrow. Not sure about Monday although he might since their is no school.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Nope, not gonna begin a confrontation with smart remarks. That only adds more fuel to the fire and pushes him even further away.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, The letter writing explains why he's been in hiding just a bit. He had to have some time to figure out how to test the waters w/his father. It will be interesting to see how his father responds to the letter. I do hope and pray that your fil will not slam the door shut on your h. He needs the reconnection w/his father in order to move forward.
I do hope that today has been a nice one for you. Enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H was here today and when he told me yesterday to save what we had for dinner, he meant it. I was surprised. I was getting something together for dinner -- quick stuff like sandwiches, and he asked if I had the stroganoff left from lastnight and I did so that is what he had.
It was a quiet day--not much of anything and I think I even fell asleep on the couch once or twice as I am so tired.
He will be over again tomorrow.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H came over, did not say hi to anyone but D16 said it to him and he said it back. I let him be as I was watching football and he went out back.
Later on, I went outside because I was tired of sitting and asked politely if he wanted something to drink and he said no and gave me such a weird smile. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing but I make him nervous. I asked why would I make him nervous and he said I just do. I said to him that I was sorry he felt that way and that it was too bad he felt that way. I came back inside and he came back in about 15 minutes after and watched the game. I said nothing to him until D16 texted me to tell him when to pick her up from her youth activity.
So, he picked up his stuff and left without saying goodbye to any of us.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
