I feel so good I cannot stand it. Must be b/c the holidays are over or maybe it is the 9 deg weather here. A record for this day. I like the cold so a bit of this is good - but I feel for those who deal with it all winter. Also, some snow would be nice
I still am wondering where all the anger went. I keep expecting it to come back but it has not.
Former W emailed me that she enrolled the kids in Sunday School and that she wanted to take them on my weekends too. She said that "S11 asked me to ask you..."
I believe in Sunday School but I try to maximize my my weekends with the kids. I dropped out of church before the divorce was final. I lost my faith to a degree and how she can sit in Sunday School each Sunday is beyond me since divorce is against everything our church stood for.
I was more put out that she did not coordinate with me ahead. So I called her on it; this is a boundary. I told her that I would not even THINK of enrolling the kids in anything on her time without consulting her first and that I would never play the "S11 asked me to ask you" card which only makes the parent a bad parent for saying no.
She emailed back in a non-defensive tone and told me why Sunday School would be good for the kids and why she did it.
Boundary enforced. She should have coordinated better.
I granted her this weekend to take the kids but am still thinking the long term. I struggle with Church and the welfare of the kids...
Today I took my son to his first basketball game of this season. First time I saw former W in person in months.
She looked good. And a wave of emotion took over for about one minute ...
Then nothing.
I cannot explain it. No longing. No regret. No anger or frustration or hate.
Nothing.
I sat there next to her and she had nothing to say. No hello or small talk. She even offered our daughter some gum - but not me.
I just smiled and watched my son play. It did not phase me. If that is the way she wants to be, fine. I was really indifferent.
Then at half time, she looks at me and says "how is your job?" I said fine.
Then she said "I would like your opinion"
I thought an ugly scene was about to happen but instead she went on to say she was offered a different position at work and what did I think.
I always was her sounding board for her career. So I listened, validated, and offered suggestions, without *fixing* it. She seemed pleased and treated me better until we departed. She even mentioned working on her resume - I always helped. I almost felt she was going to ask me to proof read it - but she did not.
Almost like old times - but not. Not even close.
Oh well.
Life is good. I am so glad the feelings are currently under control. At least for now.
