Hi K & SD,

Had a nice post ready that just drifted into the atmosphere, so I'll do a condensed version in it's place.

I had a feeling something had changed. Today H wanted to talk.
Said it doesn't look like either one of us wants to D or we would have done it by now. He would have served me, or I would have pushed it to happen.

Please just answer one question, do you at this point want me to serve you.

Instead of answering that, I told him I wouldn't continue with status quo, & every week that he disrespects our R, it further chips away at our M.

He says he knows that & it will definitely not go on like this if I say I don't want to D.
He's in the eye of a hurricane & is trying to make his way out.

After a few other thing's were said, I told him I would agree not to be served, if this isn't just more of the same.
If it is, then serve me, because I'm not sticking around for that kind of life.
He assured me that it is not more of the same, could I please be patient, he can't say anything else right now.

It is when you completely turn around, let them go & head out, that they know you're serious & pay attention, just like so many on here tell you.


We'll see where we go.....in the mean time I'm going to enjoy my life & be grateful every day for what I have, with or without him.

Mahalo,

Sunny


M-7 yrs
together-8 yrs
S-4yr
S-15yr

Bomb-4/25/07
Sep-same day
me-49
H-49

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