While I think telling her the actions you would like her to take is reasonable... telling her to tell people she LOVES you seems pretty needy to me. She's showing you with her actions she cares enough to at least contemplate doing these things to rebuild the trust with you.
Will the transparency and access to personal communication & the opposite sex meetings be a two-way street?
Is there a time limit on this? Will you share with her, at what point these requests are no longer necessary? Or will this become similar to the WAS limbo-land mentality..
Despite her actions, she is still an adult, seems to be willing to admit her mistakes and atone for them.. I think that she deserves to be treated as such in a caring, compassionate relationship with a respectful adult.
Some of what I read has started to sound like it's bordering on limits one would place on a truant teen, not someone you wish for an intimate partnership with.
While I understand the depths of hurt that violation of intimacy trusts can cause... 'demanding' is harsh.. 'requesting' would possibly be less combative and devisive.
She can choose to meet your requests or submit to your demands.
Which do you want your life partner to believe she did willingly?? meet your requests or submit to your demands?
Just my thoughts. I think the requests are mostly reasonable.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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