Two WAS's- is it really meant to be or walk away?

[Trixi]

Oh good, Nik stopped by- she always gives great advice.

A teeny voice in my head wonders if I killed any possibility of piecing by saying that? Maybe I should stop the blame game on myself .

YES! Stop the blame game! A friend recently said (when I was "blaming" myself for things going downhill when my thyroid was messed up) "What did your H do to help you?" I was like "What?" And he said "What did your H say when you weren't yourself? If it was *my* wife, I would do everything I could to help her figure out what was wrong. I wouldn't go hide out in my workshop. Sounds to me like he has always been self-centered." Wow. That really made me think.

How many men do you know that will be THAT easily directed? I mean, how many times do we say we DON'T want something (and they do it anyway) or we DO want something (and they don't do it)? IOW, could one comment REALLY make it so he doesn't call if he wanted to call? I think (very generally speaking) men have no problems justifying doing whatever the heck they want to do. The old "Better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission" comes to mind.

Further- if THAT was all it took to "kill" piecing, then there wasn't enough there to piece. Have you been reading Kalni's thread? Her H has said "come back" but he isn't giving her what she needs. Piecing is NOT easy; it's REALLY hard work. If someone is ready to piece, an "email me" comment will not deter them. Right?

That's good that you have some many invites you have to pick and choose. You are going to really grow and blossom where you are. Keep up the good work. Grieve, vent, kick and scream- it's part of the process. We're here for you! (((L_L)))