Rebuilding trust - what are reasonable requests?

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Just spoke with W

She wasnt exactly thrilled to hear these requests, but said she understood them. Told me most the men I claim she is flirting with are harmless and she is not interested in them in 'that way' but they are 'just friends'. (I told her 'just friends' is probably the scariest thing she could say to me at the moment)

She built a new social circle once she left (got a new job, so that helped) and everyone identifies her as a person happily moving towards divorce and now she feels that telling everyone otherwise is going to make her look like someone who doesnt know what the heck they are doing with their life.

I told her I understood her point of view about feeling awkward, thanked her profusely for understanding me and willing to do 'whatever it takes', and that if any of these new people are even 1/2 as cool as she thinks they might be - they should understand and not think poorly of her.

She replied saying she shouldn't care what people she hardly knows thinks about her and reiterated that I was much more important to her than any of them.

:-)

Of course, I told her once I feel normal and secure in the relationship again - have an opportunity to meet some of these people - she could resume any platonic friendship she desired. I really dont want to be that guy who tells her who she can and cant associate with. And I know I will get there, and with her help - sooner than later.