I'm not into astrology so forgive me for not knowing wth you are talking about, but anyhow...
I never say never either. A few years back I'd have said my h and I had a 10% chance of staying married...and here I am. Also I have two relatives who actually divorced, only to remarry their exes later on. It happens. However, in one case it took 8 (yes, EIGHT) years and the other took 5 years to reconcile and they all had kids, if that makes any difference, and it did b/c they had to have SOME contact with each other. By the way, both couples say the 2nd time around was better. Any special reason you chose not to marry the guy? Just curious.
The "last chance" thing your x says about sex with other women, blah blah blah, sounds cliched as hell to me. For the life of me, assuming you were intimate (and I know you were) I cannot understand how "better sex" can make that much difference to a person with a healthy self esteem. Pardon the pun, but how much stroking does the ego need?
But then, we aren't men.
In my case when the question arose of "being cool-physically- versus warm/intimate" with h, when you aren't back together yet, I debated it big time and changed my mind a few times. I spoke to a DB coach (I highly recommend them as they are pro-M, or pro-R I assume, and very specific) and it's a personal decision obviously. But for me, in our sitch, I chose to contrast the warmth of home life, with the outer world my h chose. And ml was always something that was a bonding experience for us and seemed to be quite fine with him. I don't know men who return to women b/c of sex they were NOT having, if you know what I mean. But you have to be comfortable with your own boundaries. In your sitch, he indicated that ow was "dirty" in bed, wth ever that means. It does NOT mean you weren't exciting, although you'll have to search inside and see if you let things get a little boring. IF so, it's just as much on him, BUT since you can only control you, maybe that's something to consider.
Assume for just a minute, that it's an area for you to work on. Great! You can do something about it regardless of whether you end up with him or someone else...
Assume you were just fine and he merely wants the newness... then let go of the issue since you have NO control over that. GAL like you are and in time, the truth will be revealed. For the life of me, (here comes a sexist remark so let me apologize for any offense taken up front....) I can understand a woman wanting/needing better sex b/c her guy has to "show up" for her to be satisfied. If our lovers are not very good, or selfish, or have problems they won't compensate for in some other way...we're stuck with a lousy sex life. (I don't mean ED b/c even with that, the guy can either take meds for it, OR compensate with other things....) But a guy will at least get some satisfaction if the woman just says yes. Obviously, guys want more out of us and deserve more, but the act itself...I think you take my point.
Geez, now I'm uncomfortable. Well, good luck and know that moving on does not mean you are locking doors. You have to shut them for now, so you don't keep looking back...but he knows where you are if he's ever "sure enough" to get his head straight and pursue YOU. In the meantime, you're loving life... make sense? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
