Belle - I'm on the fly here so will come back to read your recent posts more thoroughly.
Many of my friends who've known me for over 20 years would likely describe me as a very strong, independent and even tough woman. I've had to be that way throughout my life. But I've learned that marriage is not the same kind of challenge as many of the others that I've faced and met in my life.
In the end, the question I asked myself was: do I want to be right more than I want to be married.. to this man?