Hey 25, havent seen you before, but thank you for taking the time to post to me! Dont worry, I dont intend to waste years on him, nor have I ruined any friendships! I've made lots of new friends actually.
I dont pursue?? I have only phoned him once since he started seeing her 5 months ago and that was about our mortgages. I have only initiated a few emails in that time, once to tell him I knew about ow, one after his hliday and a couple brief ones about finances. Contact since he left has mainly come from him.
Yes he left other girls, but that as all when he was 15-24, so normal boys stuff!
Yes, I have heard of, and read that book. And my T outright told me, move on, have nothing more to do with him, he is just being cruel. Wow, your sister sounds in a bad way if it went on for that long!
I've had a year of weekly C and am seeing a pyschotherapist, as well as exercising now and starting new activities, so I'm defo not shied away from the working on me! I bouhgt lots of new flattering clothes in the sales, I'm wearing my hair different, dyed it, I'm sunkissed with fake tan, I ordered new funky glasses.. the Optician just said to me.. "wow, you're looking good! You look really fresh faced and lovely"!
MLC or WAS, who knows? I take your point it shouldnt matter in how YOU behave, but it gives me some comfort to try and make some sense out of something that has been so painful. He did tell his BMF that he is scared of dying/getting old and feels this is his "last chance", but I think its a textbook meet a woman at work case, we were fine.. until he met Helen, then I didnt stand a chance.
I'm an astrologer and I know he is in the midst of a major Pluto square Venus-Pluto transit and could not have ignored its pull. Its about obsession and sexual power, compulsion for someone new, who is likely to not be a healthy choice, but will make you evolve and grow and learn through pain. His friends dont like her and said he seems "ashamed" of her.. but I accept he had to do this and he is likely not ever coming back.
