Rule #2 agreed. Given my sitch, I will only be contacting h in an emergency situation.
My detachment is strangely not weakened by the following information which is the first real "news" of h in over a month. It came to me today through a mutual friend who has known h longer than I have:
H is drinking alot. H is lonely. H hasn't slept a full 8 hours since separation (10 months); still taking sleeping aids. H feels like he "held me back". H wishes that so much hadn't happened between us (referring to negative things). He spoke positively of me.
Mutual friend thought that it was very unlikely that ow was on the scene in any significant way.
Not having contact is helping me heal right now. But this information does make me wonder what any future contact should look like.
Veronica, I would appreciate your advice and perspective. I will have a db coaching session before any future contact.
My h is a proud man. I hope he finds his way through this difficult time in his life. In my last e-mail to him (10 days ago), I told him that I had let go but that he still had my silent respect, admiration and support.
