Make it a LOT of prayer...sometimes that is the only thing that can get us through.
Hi Ron, I am Lola. And Jack is right, you have might powerful people trying to help.
If your W notices changes, that is not a bad thing. One of the keys to all of this is consistency. Make the changes real. They have to be for you. Every one of us knows more about this sitch than we would like to. A very good friend tells me he never wanted to know as much about MLC as he does...M1.
From a female standpoint, if we don't want sex, we don't want it. The attempt at sex makes us feel violated. I cannot tell you what a man thinks, because I lack certain physical characteristics (lol). But sex is more emotional for women. Your W's emotions are totally off kilter right now.
One other thing, if she has complaints about you as an H, listen to them. They may be way off, and you may not agree, but right now the complaints are from the mind of the perceiver, i.e. your W. I, personally, have been accused of being very controlling. I listened, and then worked very hard to try not to exhibit any controlling behavior, even though I am one of the least controlling people in the world. But my opinion didn't matter, it was my H's perception and I needed to validate that. One day I slipped and asked a question about what he was doing. He answered. A half an hour later, I apologized to him, and by that time, his perception had changed a bit and he did not think I was being controlling.
The key is knowing that there are things thta can always be changed in any M. Find out what they are. Make yourself into the H your W cannot, will not live without.
(((Ron))) you can do this.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
