Hello, my friend. I've had a week from Hell, so I've been unable to post (got close to posting as I was catching up, but then had a someone come in and stay in my room for 40 min).
Anyway, I'm glad you got out and were able to flirt a bit. It is innocent and it is also good for you. It reminds you that you are alive.
As for W's moods and the like, you are doing well to ignore the nasty and for standing your ground when she tries to control you. My XW does the same thing - remember, parallel lives and parallel wives for us, brother.
It is about control. She wants it still and the less and less she gets it from you, the more frustrated she'll become at first. However, if you can maintain your consistency, she'll stop trying to push your buttons and control you b/c she'll know it doesn't work.
So, be on your toes and don't let your guard down. Instead, be guarded w/W (as I am at all times w/XW) and keep establishing your boundaries (isn't it funny how quickly they back down when you stand up to them?).
Your W must display consistent behaviors for several, several months before the sheild can be lowered even a tiny bit. I speak from knowledge as I'm in the same boat - remember?
It is unfortunate we share similarities b/c I know and understand your pain. However, it is also comforting to know you aren't alone and this isn't about you.
Yes, we did make choices that led us to be w/the women we chose and we did make choices that helped cause friction in the marriage...but we chose to stand and fight...we chose to try and change and they did not.
It is hard to be in the shoes we wear, but in time, we'll be glad we made the journey.
