I'll post more in the next day or two. I went to C today, it was pretty validating for me.

She was familiar with Passionate Marriage, and says it is good. She thought that the plans I am hatching were good ones, I don't remember how much I have said, and it is too late to check now.... so I will elaborate later. She laughed when I was talking about how long different things have been.... I said that the no hugging thing hadn't been as long, only three years. Somehow the way I said it was pretty amusing. I told her I had to laugh about it, what else could I do? And I said that I might be an idiot. To go through 7 of the last ten years with NO ML at all. I have come to the conclusion that I am going to have one of them there Passionate Marriages. W can be part of it, or not. She is going to have to choose, and sooner than later.

C and I both agree that W will drag her feet on MC, and quite possibly avoid it, altogether. What is she going to sound like when she lists all of her complaints, and then has to admit that she hasn't even accepted a hug in three years? I don't think she wants that. But, I've been wrong before!

(((((((Michelle)))))))
I golfed today, since I was off work. It was cold and windy when I started, I had on a sweatshirt and a jacket over my shirt, and was still quite uncomfortable. After a while the sweatshirt came off, and after a while longer the jacket was history. Soon there were almost complaints about the heat! It was about 75, and very sunny by then!

(((((Ali)))))
I think you nailed it. I am resigned, or perhaps accepting, that her problem is not my problem. I have let it become my problem, and now I am going to give it back to her. If she never wants to hug, kiss, or ML again, that's fine. But I don't have to accept that. So, I don't think I am as depressed as I was.

So, you've been here a year! Time flies when you are.... well, anyway!

(((((BobbiJo)))))
It is supposed to be nice at least through the weekend!

(((((Mishka)))))
I don't know if it is apathy, so much as letting her problems he her problems. If she doesn't want to go to MC, I am not going to let that be my problem. She can own it.

Two soccer games tomorrow! Nice weather is a good thing!

Last edited by Virtually_Handsome; 01/17/09 08:05 AM.