WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice IV

[25yearsmlc]

fyi my son reminded me that every time he went "confidentially" to talk about bullying at school, his identity was revealed. Even when he was merely a witness and not a victim, then he'd become a victim for "snitching"... eventually our son grew into a 6'3" 200lb state champion wrestler...but I have two daughters too. And for better or worse, they can't get it all out by pinning someone down on a mat or punching them in the nose. Instead the verbal, backstabbing goes on, spiraling...

Glad you "get it". One thing, you keep saying things like "why do you think I'm doing x'? and pushing for 'y'?" and my answer is, I have no reason to know why you are doing these things except for what you say here. The bullying comment was lost in a flurry of other stuff about you and your w. So, anyhow, at least this will get your mind off w and maybe, you and your d's can do something fun or different. Plan an activity with them and do it, something that does not remind you of w, or the "lack of family." I never get it when someone says having fun only reminds them of what they've lost...would they prefer being miserable?

At some point, even if your w had died, you'd eventually want to show your children that life DOES go on and that they, and you, CAN and WILL be happy again. Why wait any longer? Why not start now? You really have to get your mind off the negatives, AND your daughter's. Any way you can take a trip or camp or go somewhere with the girls' "buy in"? Have them vote, etc.? I suggested this to someone else b/c it helped my d19 (then 16) to focus on positives and we researched Italy and chose places to go and NONE of it was about h or our M etc. What a good healthy thing and I'm so grateful we went. The kids talk of the trip often and honestly I think it was VERY noticed by h. Confused him, we were having fun and a life, and he was alone....Maybe he little resented but then, I doubt he'll "forget" to schedule time or make time for a trip like that again. I'll never again put a trip like that on hold.

Take things OFF of hold and go do them. GAL, and protect your girls.
(( j ))