In one of your descriptions of your H, you say he has no dreams, all he gives attention to & thinks about is work. It seems that something he didn't dream he could be turned into a reality for him with your support
"Even this work addiction/ambition is a funny issue. He never dreamed of being so successful. For years I supported him, telling him he was one of the best. He left a job 3 years ago (was there since he was 18) and he was devastated and I was smiling. . He wanted to know why and I told him "now you will get to see how good you are, people will look for you and you will get many job offers". Didnt once doubted his value. He thought I was crazy, that I was optimistic, that we would be left with no money. 3 months later he got a job offer from this newspaper he is now a chief editor at. I was smiling again..."
It seems that something he didn't dream he could be turned into a reality for him with your support. You were the optimistic one.
Now he's on his own to be much better than before without the optimism in your eyes.
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"And he still doesnt feel it needs to be aproached. He wants it under the carpet. It's something he said knows is wrong but cant change it obviously."
You say something like this.. when you just don't know ho to "start" the conversation.. or you feel you may be "judged".
I think Forrest is right about this, I don't believe he knows what to do, so try's to push it away from your focus. The more he does that, the more intense the focus becomes & everything becomes too close up & blurry.
"OK.. thats a hint. I suspect you are not really asking for that much. But for someone that is unprepared for the task at hand.. they will become overwhelmed very quickly. Maybe they even freeze up."
That's what I suspect as well.
"Too soon? Who says it is too soon COry? You, me, him, my kids? WHO? When/how will I know it isnt early to quit?"
