Thanks you both for posting. Yes, I think it is guilt that keeps him waffling. I wish I could have db'd while he was here, I tried, but I just couldnt. And that will haunt me.
But, if he was ever going to see if he could be happy outside of this house, I really think he needed to leave for him. Otherwise, he would always wonder.
But that doesnt make it any easier. I have done some work on me, but I have miles to go. He has been gone four days - I contacted him once regarding finances. He was not happy that I did.
