Hello Jack and Mommijun! Jack, No she isn't making a real choice. In the discussion we had last night she still wants me to move out. Again I told her No way! I told her it was her choice to cheat on me, her choice to cheat on us. She tried hard to manipulate me into fighting last night. Agreeing to move in such. I didn't budge. Nor will I. I'm here because I'm standing. Being the stable one for the kids. Being Dad and not letting her gain a foot hold on me. She finally said last night that she would take her half on the tax money and find a place for her and the kids because I wont leave. She said I can see them anytime I want etc. No I don't trust her and I know that (according to lawyer advice) That neither of us can do anything until if and when we separate. Id like to think she wont be leaving here because she wont fallow through. Who knows what she will do so time will tell. Ill contact a lawyer again on Monday to see what if. She tired using the being married in name only crap but I told her that we were married in front of God and Family and that I don't condone her actions. I said she is cheating on us...meaning me and the kids. I said I continue to stand for us...this family which included her. Got the same blank empty stare we all know very well..... What I'm I doing Jack? Praying, living, being Dad. And being dark. She wont defeat me.
How are the Kids Jen? They haven't asked why but I know they know somethings up. They are very good caring well behaved kids. They don't act out or get in much trouble beyond normal kid stuff scrapes. I'm going to brag a little here and say that people walk up to us and comment on how well behaved the kids are. Total strangers! I work hard to try to keep them on a even keel. I'm not afraid to give them a kiss and hug in public. They are my life. So is she, even in the "pod" state.
She knows I wont walk out on them. She wants me too because that's what her Dad did to her and her Mom. She wants me to make the hard choice for her actions and I told her I steadfastly refuse too.
Truth is because of her work I see them more than she does. She works nights at a bar. One week its Sunday Thu thursday She sees them for about an hour and a half per day. The next week she works M,Friday,Sat, Sun. Yes she's home but spends most of the time on her computer playing games. Yes she'll check home work, occasionally cook dinner etc. That was before the blow up tho....
Id like to think the kids are holding up. but deep down I'm sure they know something is up. They have never really asked me why Mommy is on the couch. Honestly I'm not sure what Id say. I don't know if they asked her or not.
Last edited by Gman3388; 01/17/0904:54 AM.
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
