It always seems like that when it is known that we are going to be leaving each other for a time that there is this automatic hostility/tension/fighting that seems to take place just beforew the parting of ways. That is our way of giving each other a "hug". A term of endearment , I guess. It has been that way for all the time we have known each other. Quite a little while. We are dysfunctional.
Actually, T, this is not dysfuntional at all! It's a very common phenomena really. Just ask SMW! I too was a Navy wife for 18 years and I served as Ombudsman at my H's last command (If you don't know already what that is, it's the official appointed liason between the command and the families of the crew). Anyhoo, in the training I got to do for that position, I learned that it's almost inevitable that fights escalate just before deployment. This makes it psychologically easier to say goodbye to your loved one. It's a coping mechanism!
So, you are not dysfuntional at all.......well, not in that way anyway!
Take care!
(((((hugs))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
