If the issue is raised again, you may want to say "H, I need some more time to think about this. This is a huge step for the both of us, but I need the time to adjust to the idea and get my head, heart and soul in alignment."
Have the papers been drawn up? Is he looking for you to do the work? I'm sure you are aware that if you are divorced, you are going to lose your benefits as a military wife. You need to planning out your life just in case this divorce does go through.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
