Man oh man, I went downhill on Sunday afternoon. Was out of work (and out of a voice!) until today. Back in the game!! The girls were fabulous. Even my D7, who is usually annoyed by any inconvenience (like Mommy being sick, ha!) was very compassionate.
xH stopped by both days to help me. Its a bit crowded when he is there, but we managed. He has been calling me every night and we end up talking a bit (surface stuff, like usual).
Then, today, he turned. Very bad mood and rude to me. I called him on it later and he acknowledged it, mumbled an apology, and we moved on. Who knows why. He is having a loan issue on a house he wants, so I am sure that's it. Or maybe he isn't comfortable being friends with me, maybe he is worried I think more, etc. I don't think more, but don't tell him that. Don't tell him anything actually.
Blah blah blah.
nocode, It *was* easy to vent to him and not at him. I am very detached when it comes to him these days. But remember, I am not dealing with the daily sting of him being with the original OW. Its easy for me to detach from his 'new' life completely and just accept him for who he is when he is around me...my friend and Daddy. Make sense?
I hope that some day I can get to that point but mine lives with his OW and there is no hope of him leaving that so the agony will continue.
So sorry you were so sick. It was very nice of your X to come and help you out. That's the way we are supposed to treat those we care about. Even though you're not M'd anymore, he still shows that he cares about you as the mother of his little girls. That's great.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
there is no hope of him leaving that so the agony will continue.
I can only imagine. I am so sorry. I am very lucky in that aspect, I truly know this. xH used to talk to me and say things like "Well, you will have to get used to 'us', because I see us all together in a room at a party", and that kind of stuff. Truly painful.
xH used to talk to me and say things like "Well, you will have to get used to 'us', because I see us all together in a room at a party", and that kind of stuff. Truly painful.
Ugh! That brings back an ugly, ugly memory of what W said to me days after the bomb. She actually said some cr*p about someday when we're all old she and the OM, both being RN's, could help take care of me were I for some reason to lose my health first (Ooooh, how freakin' noble and high-minded these nurses can be, huh?) I think I tried to put that insane sh*t out of my head as the crackpot ravings of a lunatic. Uuuuuuuuuuugh! Blecky!
If it helps, xH does not remember saying things like he can see me and OW getting along, taking vacations all together, etc. In fact, he doesn't believe he said them, truly doesn't.
Your W will realize (if she hasn't already) that reality will not be like fantasy.
GAG!!!! He actually said that? That is completely disgusting.
I won't even go into what my XH did - suffice it to say it was public and I nearly ripped her head off when he blindsided me with her when we were meeting to talk about visitation. NASTY! She wants to be my friend....NOT!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I really appreciate who and how you are. Early on you were cheerleading and commiserating with me about our whacky husbands. When I read your posts I often get a warm fuzzy relaxed feeling.. you have a very soothing way.
Early on you were cheerleading and commiserating with me about our whacky husbands
Oh we can still do this!
Great weekend, lots of kids spending the night, playing, cooking, all around fun. I fall into bed at night, tired but not too lonely.
xH isn't feeling well. Our friend (a doctor) is thinking appendix or kidney stones. He wouldn't not pay the ER co-pay so has an appt first thing tomorrow morning. I listened, didn't mother, didn't assist, and wished him well.
I close on the house Tuesday morning (refinanced in my own name). It already feels like 'my' house, but it'll be nice to have it settled in these uncertain times. xH has to be there to sign one document. I told him the time, he said "We'll see". I hate that flippant attitude, but know he will be there. Its in HIS interest too, as his loan will be easier to receive once his name is off my loan. But the attitude is not necessary. Such a child at times.
Uuuuuuuuuuugh! Blecky!