What response are you expecting from your d17? Can she just be forgiven, and can you let it go? At least for now. Don't hold her to comments she made lashing out when you don't want that done to you. She brought up things you said way back when...so how long are YOU going to hold onto her words of anger?
You are the parent and she is the child. Don't underestimate the amount of pain SHE is in, and HER anger and rage, etc. She didn't break up a marriage, you and your wife did. Even if you want to blame your wife for all of it, it still leaves the fact that your daughters did NOT do any of this but are stuck with the "adult's mess"... Make sense? Please don't do the oh so common thing of forgetting about THEIR pain and just thinking of your own. Biggest mistake LBSers make.
Just checking in and am glad you sound calmer. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
