His inaction and avoidance are so utterly confusing to me. I know that HE was the walk away, so perhaps my perception is backwards. He does not act or talk like a man who has said to himself "I have nearly thrown away something very precious to me. I must find a way to show her that I love her and realize that I always have."


If a man had THAT thought process rolling around in his head, he could not stand by and remain idle, hoping that merely the passing of days would reclaim the marriage, or more importantly the woman.


It seems to me that if things are now to the point that the end can be glimpsed in front of you, it is time to hold nothing back in making clear just what the status is.



- I have let go of you in my heart.
- I was fully prepared to move on with my life and whatever that entailed.
- You said you wanted to come home. You indicated that you wanted to restore the marriage.
- I have been honest with you. I told you that you would have to make me want to come back - that I was already gone inside.
- A date, a card, a daily call just about the two of us and the love that you have for me - any of these things would have spoken to me.
- I am no longer the woman I was before. I want to be loved, cherished. I want to SHARE my life with a man who wants to SHARE his life with me.
- The old ways will not work. The life that we knew before - I cannot go back to that life.
- If you truly loved me, desired me, longed for me, I should be able to SEE and FEEL that in the way that you treat me and interact with me. I feel instead like a sister.
- I feel like if you were to fall in love with another person, you would KNOW what to do to express that love. And I cannot understand why you are not doing that with me.
- I think that you expected me to be satisfied with you coming home, and that I would accept things being just like they always were. I'm not sure that you are hearing me when I say that I have changed and I need MORE from love than what we once had.
- I could be convinced to work our way to truly good love, but I see no signs at all that anything but what once was is in your plans.



Brutal honesty.


A walk alone together. Person to person - no phone. A request that he FIND the time for this, as your future together is on the line.


I'm so sorry that you have been teased with the possibility of a renewed relationship, only to find that he wants nothing more than more of the same.



Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."