""he is giving it his all" - are you kidding me FG?"
It very well may be how he feels. He could feel he is giving it his all. It is the view of the person that feels it. We all get this wrong.. we make assumption based on "wrong" perceptions. Not unlike.. they left.. they must not love me. I can't tell you exactly what he is feeling.. but I will assure you there is "something" keep him from acting. I would bet lots of money on it. And win.
"And he still doesnt feel it needs to be aproached. He wants it under the carpet. It's something he said knows is wrong but cant change it obviously."
You say something like this.. when you just don't know ho to "start" the conversation.. or you feel you may be "judged".
You hide from things you don't want to face.. because it will make you look bad. Maybe even hinder the moving forward.
"Too soon? Who says it is too soon COry? You, me, him, my kids? WHO? When/how will I know it isnt early to quit?"
All I can say is look how long people spend in piecing.
"That's what I said privately to you."
And I said privately to you.. I am not sure how..nor am I gonna fight this. She had to make the choice. Figure it out.
"I will simply NOT go back, not even as a start. It has to be MUCH better to start with."
Then you are fighting a losing battle. Thats why you are tired.. and done. You have to start somewhere.. even if sometimes it is not where you want to be.
You right there just "agreed" with what I am saying.. you are over there.. he is over here.. both of you are saying.. come to me. Someone has to move. If you don't want to.. then close the door.. and move on. If where you are standing is the least you will take.. start there.. move on and don't look back. He is either gonna give chase.. or give up. Are you happy with either of those options?
"He already says I want a lot."
OK.. thats a hint. I suspect you are not really asking for that much. But for someone that is unprepared for the task at hand.. they will become overwhelmed very quickly. Maybe they even freeze up.
"He once said, "this is me, if you want more, you have a decision to make"."
He is right. Call him on his bluff. Say if this is really all you have to give.. why are we doing this? It is not enough for me. If you really want to confuse him.. say I am not asking for much.
"To me that shows he still has issues with being right and stuborn."
The same thing as when he left? Why should he look inside? He left.. now he is back. What would have prompted him to "look inside"?
I am headed home I will try and get back into this.. soon.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
