We have a son together so our 'date' is very informal since we couldnt get a babysitter in time.

She invited me to her apt for dinner. It will be a little awkward to be in her new apt, but I will get over it.

Bringing wine, flowers & upbeat and excited attitude!


Yes, we also did the whole bringing up issues with each other...we did that to death. And no, its not fun. Its the opposite of fun. And we just couldnt seem to stop bringing it up, and it always seemed to bring out the worst in both of us.

So we learned that is a very effective buzz kill and neither one of us wants that! We know how delicate our situation is, but in the same light we both seem pretty excited. I just hope when the 'newness' starts to fade, we dont slip into poor habit.

But with her not living in the house and not in each other's faces every day, I think it will be easier to avoid the hard questions that are better left for the MC sessions.


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now