Ali, I was reading Passionate Marriage. It says that whichever of the two parties has the lower desire for sex, sets the pace and frequency. We all know it's true. For us, it was about everything. He wanted less of everyting... So, he set the pace. And because I was constantly "lacking", I was angry, bitter, demanding in his eyes, complaining, a bitch... Our friends thought the same most of the times. None of my my friends could take being married to a ghost. Even the ones urging me to stick around now, when I explain what I want is still less than average, shut up. In my case, average, normal, sufficient becomes HUGE, BIG, TOO MUCH...
