Hey K! The debate rages on... "to no avail" means.. to no use, or no result. But I didnt agree with that part of FGs post, "he is giving it his all" - are you kidding me FG? If this is his all, I'd like to see what he's capable of giving once things are back to 'normal' and he doesnt have to try and fix something, lol.
Anyway, I think.. Pluto really did his work on you K and has well and truly, left the building!
Joking aside, as this really isnt funny.. sounds to me like you didnt get it wrong back then and throughout your M, you were just living in a reality, the only one you knew.. sounds like your H was quite dominant over the R you had (not necessarily over you, but he was in effect, perhaps subtley, with manipulation?) and quite alot of power, that he was pulling the strings, controlling the pattern and mood of your R in way that perhaps wasnt obvious and maybe it happened in increments. The effect being, he managed to manouvre you into mother, babysitter, housekeeper, his PA, chef, part-time lover...but he had it "his" way?
We're painting a bad picture here! as you are not feeling in love with him and you are possibly angry at him? I'm sure your H has lots of great qualities that his friends/family see, but then, they dont have to be his W!
Seems to me, bit by bit.. you outgrew him. You woke up. He's still sleepwalking.
Is there any hope that you could slap him awake? Forgive him this behaviour? Or is it just too late? But then, like my ex, or Bobbi's...you cant do it for them, they have to 'get it', grow, evolve themselves hey.
