<< Kalni has no time with him... But.. to give her more time he loses some of his "financial security".
He may also be using this as an emotional defense mechanism.

<< Maybe. Or the new woman.. may just be woo'd by what he was giving.
Find out from him what he's giving by listening to his buried feelings, not what you expect and not getting. To get the right answer you have to do it lovingly not bitterly/complainingly. Isn't that what's the "wo" in "woman" means? You are a "woman" and a "leader"!