Did you feel attacked or pushed by me? How did that feel?
There is a point to be made there, and gives you an inkling as to how your wife might feel to greater degree.
Here is some truthful zen bull shite: You know you need to change, but don't know how, so just do it. Change is simply something different.
If you are the one kissing her in the morning and at night, stop. If she is the one, then it's ok.
Listen when she talks. Talk back but about fluffy stuff, nothing 'deep'. Validate yes, glad to see you have been reading.
Do I attempt not to have physical contact in bed? How is that working out so far? No stop. She isn't playing hard to get she doesn't want it, and for a guy...that thought goes against almost everything we believe in. I mean...come on...sex...you might as well shoot me if anything happened to Mr. Happy. Cause I'm basically just going to eat and sleep with out him around like a neutered cat.
This one is a big one for most guys here.
So tell me, since we are all adults here, and be honest and I will be too, how does the rest of your day or week go when you aren't gettign sex and you keep getting shot down? That is a question I'd like answered and honestly. There's the mirror.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
