Anyway...onward and upward. She's firmly committed to her path of anger and just seems to want me to play into it again just because we are communicating again (to some extent) - and I'm just not interested in returning her volley. I'd rather let the ball pass, give her the point, the game and the match...and move onto another court with a player that enjoys the game more than drama of each questionable ball. Let her have her Pyrrhic victory...I prefer the calm life I am enjoying without her.
Carlos,
I think you summed it up perfectly in this quote. I also think that people who spar for arguments eventually exhaust themselves. By not responding to her, she may try to engage a bit more, but eventually, she'll feel she won and stop raising the issue.
Like the DR says, you tried something different. That's good. You are monitoring the results and behaving accordingly. All very well done.
